by Shagufta Faheem December 11, 2017 0 Comments


The secret to self confidence isn't much of a secret at all. Commit to treating yourself with the same kindness you show other people. Self compassion is the key to feeling good about who you are and the life you live. Putting yourself first doesn’t mean only caring about yourself. It means having a grounded and realistic understanding that you are your first and only locus of control, and you have to be rooted in that before there’s any possibility of lending yourself to anybody or anything else.

Accept your imperfections:
There is no such thing as perfection and yet so many people exhaust themselves and erode their confidence in the pursuit of it. When you accept your imperfections, you recognize you have strengths and weaknesses. You acknowledge that, like everyone else, you have many positive qualities but that you also have other, less positive ones and that's okay. 
                                                 "I am perfectly imperfect.'' 


Stop comparing yourself:
Comparing yourself to others will usually leave you feeling inadequate. Even if you find yourself thinking that you are better or superior in some way, this will only give your self-esteem a short-term boost. When you stop comparing yourself to others, the only person you will need to impress is yourself. This way you will not be affected by anything anyone else says, does or has.
                       "I have no need to see myself as more or less than anyone else."


Believe in your potential:
Not only is worrying a big waste of energy, it also sends a clear message to your subconscious about your expectations in life. Instead of worrying about things that might never happen, you should believe in yourself. Once you've acknowledged your fears or the worst-case scenario, you are able to put them to the side and continue on towards the happy and rewarding future you know you deserve.
                                "I fully expect my life to be happy and rewarding."


Challenge yourself:
Confidence and self belief are like muscles, you need to exercise them if you want them to grow stronger. One of the best ways to build these muscles is by stepping outside your comfort zone. When you challenge yourself, you are telling your subconscious that you believe in yourself and that you are willing to back yourself in new circumstances and situations. Regardless of how you feel while doing something new, you will always feel great for having done it.
                          "I am brave and willing to step outside of my comfort zone."

Stop making excuses:

Regardless of how it may look from afar, nobody is living the perfect life. What some people are better at than others is living their best life. If you are not living your best life, you need to examine not only the things that are getting in your way, but the reasons why you are letting them.When you stop making excuses and start taking responsibility you are able to enjoy the things that are great about your life.
                              "I take full responsibility for who I am and the life I lead."


So, Better keep yourself clean and bright, you are the window through which you must see the world. We are responsible for what we see, which means that when one is feeling defeated internally, the world will reflect a similar sentiment, but if a person's internal feeling is one of fulfillment, the way in which one sees the world will be positive. Only an individual can know exactly what he or she needs. To feel good in this world, it is compulsory to understand oneself, the responsibility should be no one else's.

Shagufta Faheem
Shagufta Faheem